Friends of Horse Fair

Dear Care Home Friend,

In less than a month it feels like everything has changed. As I was looking at my diary for March, we had committee meetings planned for most homes, and lots of volunteers on the brink of starting. I did get to a Dementia Cafe in very early March but within days we were having to look at everything differently.

In all homes, we have no volunteers going in. Understandably, most care homes won’t even allow families to visit residents except in very extenuating circumstances.

We regularly hear from volunteers who want to help, to continue to do something to support the residents and staff of the home that they are supporting. If any of you have any thoughts about something volunteers might practically do, please let us know.

So what are we doing? The King’s Fund, where our offices are located, shut down  at very  short notice. The last few hours looked a bit like we are passengers on the Titanic grabbing the essentials for an unknown period in the lifeboats. At this point, the care homes support team are all set up to work from home.

You may continue to hear from Sona who is totally reviewing and updating all our records relating to volunteers. We are contacting some as part of the process. Also we are continuing to have regular enquiries from people who want to get involved once we come out the other side of this current situation. We are processing their applications, taking up references etc.

Alongside this Said and Kim are getting the financial records up to date. Today is the last day of the care home groups financial year, so there is plenty to do to prepare the draft accounts.

Alongside this we are continuing to look for funders who might support the projects you have told us you would like to do.

So, while perhaps less physically present, we are continuing to work hard to ensure these projects are in the best position they can be, once we return to practical day to day volunteering in the homes.

Once again, if you have any ideas on what else we might do now, do get in touch. In the meantime, do stay safe and well.

With very best wishes

Nichole Wheaton

Head of Projects Delivery
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Music has the power to transcend words and is a substantial tool for people with speech difficulties. Music is a part of our everyday lives, and is associated with memories of places, people and specific events. Music can soothe souls, energise spirits and touch the most resistant hearts.

In 2019, Friends of Horse Fair received a grant from Awards for All to launch their Music with Everyone project, which used music to add value to the lives of elderly residents. The project meant that residents felt a greater sense of community and they also reported an improvement in mood and mental wellbeing.

Thanks to the staff at Friends of Horse Fair and a team of experienced musicians, we managed to introduce 10 music sessions. The sessions include creating and recording new songs with the collaboration of residents and volunteers and musical instruments. The meetings will lead to a final sharing event “Songs and Scones”, where the residents will be able to showcase all that they have learnt.

The team’s goal is to demonstrate the value of live music as a tool to improve the quality of life in care homes.  With this project, residents can now develop musical skills and bolster their mood. Thanks to music we can tackle the unsweet isolation, uniting all together through the power of rhythm, notes, and lyrics.

The local community has worked together to bring this opportunity to the residents. It is a chance for local volunteers to engage with and learn from the elderly. For the residents, it is a chance to see new faces, discover different interests and stories and, as a result, make each day different.  Fostering social interaction and commitment to looking after each other is a vital step in growing healthy and strong communities. The music project means that the residents and volunteers will have something to look forward to and a chance to feel the joy that has once been forgotten.

Being a mother and a grandmother is something Jean believes has given her with the skills that make her a good volunteer. Spending time with residents at Horse Fair reminds her of looking after her own mother, whom she had responsibility of for nearly 16 years. From one rewarding experience to another, Jean acknowledges that devoting her time to others has genuinely become a part of her life.

As members of Jean’s church were asked whether they would be interested volunteering, Jean finds a lot of her time at Horse Fair is spent providing supportive services for the residents. Chatting and sharing thoughts with the residents is an area Jean finds most comforting- building a connection with residents and ‘’helping them find significance in their lives’’ is something Jean recognises should be felt by all.

Jean encourages everyone interested in volunteering to take the leap. She recognises that it has been a worthwhile experience, allowing her to express her desire to help others. Being caring and compassionate and ‘’giving residents some peace of mind’’ is something Jean looks forward to continue doing at Horse Fair Care Home.

Richard’s involvement with Horse Fair Care Home began when Friends of Care Homes reached out to him and his team at the church to occasionally help out with the staff and spend some quality time with the residents. Richard accepted the offer with no hesitation as he loves to be a helpful member of his community, “we want to be a positive part in the community and it is important that we respect our commitments”.

Prior to his role at the church and the care home, Richard got involved in some college catering until he realised that it was not the right career route for him. He then decided to work at the Tate gallery while he was still living in London, for around eight years before moving to Rugeley with his wife and kids.

While Richard and his team are at Horse Fair around once a fortnight, they do some reading for the residents and sing hymns together every so often, “our time consists of a simple thought for the day, one or two hymns that are chosen by the residents, and the remainder of the time is spent talking with the residents”. Richard added, “our main objective is to spend time with the residents”. While Richard and his church group are at Horse Fair, they spend most of their time chatting with the residents about any stories or memories they want to share, “it is really good because there are so many life experiences and stories, they have some really deep lives they have lived in adventure”.

When starting out in his role at the care home, Richard adapted to the environment with ease. What helped him with this is the diverse age group he has at his church, “it was nothing new to me in that aspect, we exercise the same skills with the residents at Horse Fair as those used at church”. The different age groups have helped Richard and his team to become accustomed to socialising with all generations.

Another thing that helped with the adaptation to the care home environment for Richard was the training he had to partake in before officially starting his role at Horse Fair. “I fully understood and appreciated the training we needed to do because it puts the care home at ease knowing that we have done the training”.

Richard has formed friendships with everyone at the care home, “I do feel a connection with everyone there, we go there as friends not as workers”. The most important part of Richard’s role to him is, “building good friendships and relationships with staff and residents, the blessing we get from that is equally reciprocal”.

In order to be a good volunteer at a care home, Richard believes that it requires good listening skills, awareness and empathy, “respecting others and being interested in others is important”. “Some days the residents are not feeling as good as other times and being sensitive to how they are on that day is important. Sometimes they just want space and being aware of that is important”, he explained.

Richard’s advice to those who are considering volunteering at a care home is to, “go along and see what it is like. Some people think that volunteering is a huge commitment, but just to pop in and have a chat can make a huge difference”. Richard is extremely pleased with his experience at the care home and can definitely see how his teams’ role at Horse Fair benefits everyone, “I think all of us come away more encouraged and blessed, it really is a privilege to go in”.

To build stronger and happier communities in Rugeley, a group of volunteers formed Friends of Horse Fair Care Home where they can socialise with the residents and add a new aspect into their lives.

Shelbie Haynes was encouraged by her school friend Clotilda to become a volunteer of Friends of Horse Fair Care Home in the beginning of the year. Shelbie started her volunteering journey at Horse Fair whilst undertaking her A-level exams. Despite attending school 5 days a week, Shelbie had some time on her hands which she wanted to make the most of. Volunteering at a care home was an opportunity for her to gain first-hand experience for her Health & Social Care lessons, “you can only read so much in the books and I wanted to learn more than that”, she explained.

During her first days as a volunteer, Shelbie met the residents and particularly got along with the sweetheart of Horse Fair care home – Violet. The relationship they have developed over time is a perfect example of two generations completing and giving to each other. “We have quite a lot in common”, Shelbie explained.  Both ladies have visual impairment which sparked conversations from the start and marked the beginning of strong, ongoing mutual support. “Sometimes we just go outside in the garden and listen to the birds”, she said. Shelbie and Violet have bonded over long hours of chatting about life, passions, school, family and friends. Violet enjoys telling Shelbie stories from her childhood about her very first love which has eventually turned into marriage. Violet also feels the responsibility to give Shelbie as much wisdom as she can since girls like her “are the future of this country”.

Shelbie’s experience with Friends of Horse Fair Care Home has given her a boost of confidence. Helping the residents gave her the opportunity to develop strong sense of empathy, especially toward Violet. “She lost her sight suddenly in her 60s because of Multiple Sclerosis”, Shelbie explained. “I wish I had known about Friends of Horse Fair sooner”, Shelbie has committed to volunteering at Horse Fair and cannot wait for the summer when she will be able to visit more often. She persevered for the cause and effectively, has become more patient and learned how to communicate with the residents to give both the best experience. Volunteering has inspired her future plans to work in a similar sector with children and young people.

To anyone considering volunteering, Shelbie would advise to “go for it”. “It gives you a one-of-a-kind experience that you won’t get elsewhere”, she explained. Shelbie will continue bringing generations together and giving to the community in a meaningful way.

Violet, 80, became a resident at Horse Fair in June 2015. She has always been an open and bubbly lady and became comfortable at the care home soon after was admitted and joined the Committee which she has been a member of since July 2016.

Aged only 7, Violet had to leave school and care for her ill father. Despite the hardship she had experienced, with hard work and determination she returned to school 5 years later to graduate with excellent grades. “I used to work as a chemist in Scotland. It is beautiful there, but coming down here meant I could be closer to my family”, she confessed. She has since moved to Rugeley where the care home is based.

In the same care home, a group of volunteers established Friends of Horsefair on 18^th July 2016. Volunteers have been engaging with the care home’s residents with the purpose of adding value to their lives ever since.

Violet is always thrilled to welcome volunteers visiting Horsefair Care Home, “I love the volunteers. Every time they come down I never stop talking to them”, she explained. Violet tells volunteers stories from her life including her childhood sweetheart and husband who “was the only boyfriend she has ever had”.

At the home, Violet has become particularly close with one of the Friends, Shelbie. “We clicked the minute we met”, Violet explained. Shelbie and Violet’s bond grew strong since the moment they had learnt that both ladies had lost their vision. Because of this, they get to share special moments like listening to the birds in the garden. Together, they are planning on writing a book about their experiences and the bond that blossomed between the two.

Her relationship with Shelbie strengthens each time she comes to the care home and has become a bond of reciprocated care from both, “I look forward to when Shelbie comes down, she is such a lovely child.  I love talking to the youngsters particularly, they are the future of this country”, Violet explained proudly.  Just like the volunteers look after their elderly and make sure they put a smile on the residents face, Violet feels the responsibility to take care of the volunteers, “I talk to them about school and how things are. I have the right to teach them a bit about life too. It is so important that the volunteers come and visit us. I couldn’t do without the girls, they are my life”, Violet said.

Friends and staff of Horse Fair do their best to make the residents’ experience delightful. To achieve this, alongside Live Music Now, Friends organise music workshops which Violet gets involved in, “I am a very noisy person and I may not sing as well as I used to, but I love to sing whenever I can!” she explained. Violet also believes that the staff at Horse Fair deserve more credit for their hard work as they are “extremely helpful but don’t get applauded enough”. The Wellbeing Co-ordinators arrange festive events such as Christmas Pantomime, where last year Violet stole the show as the Wicked Witch and was the only resident to star. “We pre-recorded her parts so she could perform as her voice was projected. We pimped her wheelchair and all had a great fun!” Jess, a Wellbeing Co-ordinator, explained. Violet’s grandson, who is an actor himself, saw his grandmother’s performance leaving him in awe.

Thanks to the familial relationships between volunteers, staff and residents, Horse Fair care home truly feels like home, where residents like Violet make it a delight to live in.

With this project, we will purchase a specialist sensory case for the elderly as a tool to exercise sensory perception. The case will include a variety of equipment for residents with dementia and those who might need some sensory stimulation.

The sensory case contains tools which will give the residents the opportunity to exercise visual, olfactory and auditory perception. Musical gloves will give the residents the opportunity to play music with ease and the fruits card game will allow them to recognise and match fragrances with fruits.

Additionally, cushions and armchair covers of various textures will constitute a tool to explore tactile perception.

The kit will be a chance to build a bridge between trained volunteers and the residents, form new meaningful relationships developed through leisure whilst simultaneously improving their physical health. Our volunteers will contribute to improving the lives of residents by exercising day-to-day tasks which involve sensory stimulation. Thanks to this project, residents will gain confidence in recognising textures, sounds and scents and, consequently, improve their concentration and memory.

The Multisensory Equipment project is one more step forward in making residents’ lives more enjoyable and meaningful.

As part of her studies she has been given a task to carry out a research on care homes in her local area. During her research she came across Friends of Horsefair Care Home where she immediately applied for a volunteering role.

Clotilda’s drive to volunteer with the elderly derived from her personal experience. When her grandmother had dementia, she looked after her daily by brushing her hair, cooking and being there for her as much as it was possible. Witnessing her grandmother’s life with dementia has prepared Clotilda for her future experience and has given her an insight on how the elderly want to and should be treated. ”They need to be respected, loved, cared for, and treated equally. You should want to make them feel special”, Clotilda explained.

Clotilda always looks forward to her volunteering day. She spends at least two hours in Horsefair Care Home every week. She has bonded with the residents through conversations at the care home. Amongst the activities organised for the residents are bowling and playing music. Clotilda comes from Zimbabwe, where music and dance play a vital role in the culture. When a traditional drum session was organised at Horsefair, Clotilda was thrilled for the opportunity to bond with the residents over the love for her roots, “when the residents played traditional drums, I played them too, it was just brilliant!” Residents have also shared their life stories with Clotilda which has helped her get to know and build relationships with them.

Clotilda’s volunteering experience reinforced her decision to work in mental health in the future. “I have gained so much from volunteering”, she explained, “I have become more confident and communication is a key skill I have learned here too”.

Clotilda believes being a caring and compassionate person is vital when volunteering in a care home.  “They need someone to show them that they’re important”, she explained.  Making a resident feel better about themselves is one of the most rewarding moments which make Clotilda look forward to coming in each week.

“I would recommend volunteering in a care home to anyone and everyone – for the lessons of patience on humbleness that you would not be taught elsewhere.  For the gratifying feeling of accomplishment. You should do it, too!”

On 8^th August 2017, thanks to a grant received from Awards for All, Friends of Horse Fair teamed up with Live Music Now and launched a music project for the residents of Horse Fair Care Home.

The team’s goal is to demonstrate the value of live music as a tool to improve the quality of life in care homes.  With this project, residents can now develop musical skills and bolster their mood. Thanks to music we can tackle the unsweet isolation, uniting all together through the power of rhythm, notes and lyrics.

The local community has worked together to bring this opportunity to the residents. It is a chance for local volunteers to engage with and learn from the elderly. For the residents, it is a chance to see new faces, discover different interests and stories and, as a result, make each day different.  Fostering social interaction and commitment to looking after each other is a vital step in growing healthy and strong communities. The music project means that the residents and volunteers will have something to look forward to and a chance to feel the joy that has once been forgotten.

Live Music Now is a UK-wide initiative, created by Yehudi Menuhin and Ian Stoutzker in 1977. Every year, musicians deliver thousands of interactive music programmes in care homes and hospitals, and a range of community and healthcare settings. Find out more at www.livemusicnow.org.uk. 

There were lots of old fashioned fairground games to play, as well as some lovely hampers being raffled. To win a bottle of champagne, there was a guess the weight of the dachshund which Milly volunteered to do (I thought you weren’t supposed to discuss a lady’s weight).

Lots of residents took an active part in the day, and Milly’s weight was successfully guessed by Joyce Robertson

It was a really great day. Thank you to everyone, Especially Jess for making it such a lovely day.

We held a Christmas present sale, and were delighted to raise £44.50.

Violet, one of the residents on the friends committee made an appearance as Mrs Claus: She looked fantastic.

The Friends Committee met on Tuesday the 15th November to discuss future projects and plan the Christmas table sale.

On the 18^th July 2016 The Friends group held their first meeting at the care home to formally appoint a Chairman, Secretary, Treasurer and Committee Members, to agree the constitution, adopt policies and procedure and discuss business related to formation of the group.  We were joined by relatives, residents, staff and volunteers.

As part of his role, he is patron of each of the friends groups in care homes.

Pictured here, he is talking to Nichole, project manager, and Kahlil who is newly appointed to the team. He was delighted to hear of the progress to date.